Facing a separation/divorce can feel overwhelming initially. However, like all major life events the burden is always eased by surrounding yourself with the right people and professional support.

In this article, we discuss the basics of preparing for a smooth separation in 3 ways:
Facing a separation/divorce can feel overwhelming initially. However, like all major life events the burden is always eased by surrounding yourself with the right people and professional support.

How to prepare for a smooth separation

Take care of yourself. You are your best asset!

There are some important decisions that lie ahead, and it is important that you are in the best possible space psychologically to make these decisions.

Here are our top tips to make sure that you are in the best possible mental space:

  • Aim for a minimum of 8 hours sleep each night.
  • Don’t bottle up negative emotions, get help from a health professional if you need it.
  • Watch your alcohol intake. Remember alcohol is a stimulant and a depressant and can intensify negative emotions.
  • Eat well.
  • Enjoy the benefits of natural endorphins by getting outside and doing some gentle exercise each day.
  • Do one enjoyable/relaxing thing each day – just for you.

Don’t bottle up negative emotions

Seeking help from a psychologist could be the best investment that you make right now.

Even in the most amicable of break ups, difficult and unsettling emotions are likely to arise and can feel debilitating at times.

A skilled psychologist will help you diffuse any negative emotions in a healthy way and suggest positive strategies that can help you manage future challenging situations or conversations with your ex-partner.

If you need help finding a good psychologist, the best place to start is to talk to your family G.P for a referral and potentially obtaining a Mental Health Care Plan.

Obtain family law advice from a reputable family lawyer early

Obtaining legal advice early can save a lot of unnecessary worry and often leads to much better outcomes. The best time to seek advice is before the separation (if possible) and certainly before negotiations commence so that you can gain some clarity around what would represent a good and realistic outcome from a legal perspective.

Parenting matters
The vast majority of separated parents sort out parenting issues without the intervention of lawyers and the Family Court. Nonetheless, it is always a good idea to obtain preliminary legal advice before agreeing to any co-parenting arrangements to make sure that your parenting plan is both in your children’s best interests and is practical long term.

Find out more information about Family Dispute Resolution at Cargill Family Law.

Property matters
Obtaining legal advice early can be critical to ensuring that you secure the best possible property settlement.

To obtain maximum value from your initial consultation with your family lawyer, we recommend that you go equipped with the following information:

  • A list of all assets, liabilities and superannuation interests owned by you or your ex-partner.
  • Information concerning any business, company, trusts or partnership interests that either you or your ex-partner hold an interest in.
  • An estimate of what your respective assets and liabilities were prior to commencing your relationship.
  • A list of gifts, inheritances and/or compensation payments that either you or your ex-partner have received during the relationship which has increased the size of your property pool.
  • Annual salary estimates for both you and your ex-partner.

This information will help your family lawyer provide you with meaningful preliminary advice as to what would represent a realistic property settlement range in your case. Find out more about how Cargill Family Law can help with your Property Settlement.